Performing an erotic dance or a strip tease for your partner can be a great way to spice up your love life. You don’t need to be a talented dancer or install a pole in your house to master the art of the strip tease. All you need is to work up some courage and have some fun.
Getting dressed up and showing off your sexiness can be a huge turn on not only for you but also for “your audience”. Here are some simple steps that will help when planning your erotic dance.
Think it through – A lot of us have body image issues. I can hear you saying “I am not hot enough to do this” or “I’d look like a baby elephant grinding to the music, that wont turn my lover on” Wrong! You are hot and your lover thinks so too. Drop your inhibitions and love your body.
Imagine yourself dancing to the music, showing off your assets and how hot that will make your partner.
The Music – What music do you love? What turns you on? What’s your lover’s favourite music? What moods do what to convey with your dance? These are all questions to keep in mind when choosing the right music to accompany your routine.
If you want a fast paced, action packed number pick something up beat and fast or maybe you want to be slow and seductive then find something to go along with that. If you and you partner have a song that represents your relationship you may want to dance to that song and make the song represent even more happy memories for your relationship.
The costume – Start with the bottom layer first and work your way out. The bottom layer is your “show stopper”. What does your partner like? Black lace teddies? Stockings and suspenders? Make this your show stopper.
Then start to think of the outer layers, you can pretty much wear anything you like on the outer layer but sometimes a costume is fun like a sexy secretary or a naughty nurse. Both also have props which you can use like the tie from the sexy secretary out fit (loop it around your lovers neck and bring him close, then release). Try to find clothing and lingerie that will be able to be taken off easily. You don’t want anything with to many buttons or hooks.
You may also want to add accessories; a long neck lace, some long gloves, a feather boa or a hat can really add to the overall effect and make for perfect teasing items. Be careful with your shoes; make sure you can actually dance in them. While 3 inch stilettos may look super sexy, falling in a heap on the floor because you are not used to them may not be!
You can go all out on your costume and have real fun with it.
Practice – You’re not auditing to be Madonna’s next back up dancer or for a role in Grease the musical so no need to whip out some major dance moves. Keep it simple and leave the fancy dance routines to the professions. Just pop on the music you have chosen and get familiar with it.
Move to it and see where it takes you. When you have some ideas in place do a trial run with your costume and accessories on. Think about when and what you will take off. This will give you a chance to find out what will come off easily and what wont so you can modify your costume to suit.
Showtime – You may feel a bit nervous at first this is only natural but remind yourself that you are sexy and try and ooze sexuality. When you feel sexy you look sexy. There’s an old saying “Fake it till you make it” which can be applied here.
Dimming the lights or turning them off and lighting candles can create a romantic setting and also help you to feel more comfortable then dancing under stark light.
Take it slow remember this is a strip tease; place a lot of emphasis on the Tease part. You may want to start with a glove and slowly but seductively push it down your arm. You can even take it off slowly with your teeth. Then once the glove is off lightly throw it to your partner. Take off what ever you want but remember to leave your stocking and shoes on until your are down to your lingerie, this helps with the over all visual effect.
Try and keep eye contact with your partner and ooze confidence, act in control. Don’t forget to turn around and let him see your whole body; a few fun booty shakes also can help you feel more relaxed.
Flash your breasts and spin around so he can get a glimpse of your sexy underwear but remember to cover it back up again and don’t reveal until you’re ready. Making him wait will tease him all the more. Remember not to allow him to touch you this is also a great way to tease him. Get close to him but make him wait until he can finally touch you.
Once you are down to your underwear, give him a few moments to enjoy the sight then pop your leg up on the arm of his chair or very close to him and slowly and seductively roll down your stockings (Stay ups are the best stockings to use for this) then gently remove your shoes.
Tease your lover for a few moments longer then give him a lap dance or strut confidently towards the bedroom and say follow me.
The main point to remember with the strip tease is to have fun. This may well be a high point in your sexual relationship; you may want to do it again and again. You never know until you try it, so what are you waiting for!
Article written for Beauty and Lace by expert Kelly from Galafun.
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